T3 - Beaver/Melancholic Personality Type

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T3 - Golden Retriever/Phlegmatic Expose

It's Personality Type Expose over at The Character Therapist! Come find out about the Golden Retriever/Phlegmatic!

T3 - Personality "Types" Overview

Starting a new series to aid you in character development. Come take the tests approved by The Character Therapist and join in the fun!

T3 - New Year Resolutions: Some Friendly Cautions

To set the record straight, I'm all for resolutions. I just don't think they should only be inspired by a new year. The date should be irrelevant to when you want to make an improvement to yourself.

However, it's pretty accepted that January 1st is some magical date to "start over" or "wipe the slate clean." So to that I say give it your best shot! But I have a few cautionary words as well.

1) Make your goals realistic.

If you're completely addicted to Starbucks, live/work three blocks from one, have a friend who works there or any combination of these three, then your resolution to abstain from Starbucks is pretty unfeasible. (Not to say there aren't extremely strong-willed individuals out there, but I'm just speaking in generalities as I so often have to do.)

2) Don't always focus on BIG goals.

Goals don't always have to be the long-range, big time stuff. The best accomplishments, in fact, could be a series of small goals you achieve. But if you only think about the big picture, you could miss this opportunity to triumph!

It's a great idea to break big goals into smaller ones anyway. That way, you're not overwhelmed with the idea of having to graduate from school. You just work your way through individual classes first. Losing the first 5 lbs can be the hardest when the amount you're aiming for is 50 lbs.

3) Figure out your rewards ahead of time.

What's the fun of actually accomplishing your goals if there's no reward? Sure, there's that inherent, philosophical idea that you did what you set out to do. That might be enough for some of us, but it's not at all enough for others. Some crave recognition, so maybe you should blog monthly about how far along you are in sticking to your resolution. Some crave a physical reward, such as divinely expensive chocolate, Kindle books, or manicures (oh, wait...this post isn't supposed to be about me!). Reward yourself for staying true to your goals...and do this on a regular schedule. It might work for some to treat themselves weekly instead of monthly. You know yourself.

4) Don't wait until January 1st, 2011, to jump back on the wagon.

There's nothing magical about January 1st! If you don't meet your goal, just get back to it as soon as you can! There is this supposed formula that it takes 28 days to break a habit. Well, in 28 days, you're still in January! Many, many, many resolutions are broken during the very first month (I tried to find the exact percentage, but it's late and I'm tired and the internet fairies weren't forthcoming).

Treat an occasional lapse as a temporary setback, not something to throw your hands up, gnash your teeth and wail about. If you went 10 days with no Starbucks, but on day 11 couldn't fight the aroma calling to you in your sleep, then just start back on day 12. One coffee in 10 days won't send you to the dark abyss. It's better than 10 coffees. The same could be said with getting off your diet, smoking a cigarette or compulsive shopping.

5) Be purposeful in your resolutions.

Don't just sporadically come up with something you think you'd like to change. Really give it some thought. According to psychologist Richard Wiseman, who led a study about failed resolutions, "If you do it on the spur of the moment, it probably doesn't mean that much to you and you won't give it your all. Failing to achieve your ambitions is often psychologically harmful because it can rob people of a sense of self control." Even more so, when we fail at our resolutions, we can often feel even worse about ourselves than we did before we made the resolution, and that's no place anyone wants to be.


TO INCREASE YOUR CHANCE FOR SUCCESS:

So, now that you know better how to prepare for your resolutions, I thought I'd add some sure-fire ways to increase your chance for success.

Breaking goals down into smaller steps is definitely the number one thing to do. This increases your chance of success to 35% (according to Wiseman's study). If you add the reward system, the success rate goes up. If you add telling your friends, keeping a diary (or blog) of your progress, and focusing on the benefits of succeeding (not focusing on the downside of not succeeding), then your success rate goes up to 50%!

So keep these things in mind when making your resolutions!

Here's wishing everyone a HAPPY NEW YEAR!!

T3 - Obsessive-Compulsive Personality Disorder

The last personality disorder is on parade today at The Character Therapist. It's one heck of one, too. I should know, as I have more tendencies toward this one than any of them. :)

T3 - Schizotypal Personality Disorder

Only two more personality disorders to go in our Parade! You can find out about this funny-sounding disorder at The Character Therapist.

T3 - Dependent Personality Disorder

Come read about this fascinating, yet disturbing, personality disorder at The Character Therapist.

T3 - Avoidant Personality Disorder

What do they avoid and why? Find out by clicking over to The Character Therapist.

Erratic Posting and T3

Erratic Posting and Borderline Personality Disorder

I guess by now everyone who even still reads this blog realizes that my posts have been erratic. If you missed my update on life, see this post here. I'm starting a new job, moving cross-country BACK to California (without my family for a few weeks) and house hunting. This all starts on Saturday!

Due to life circumstances, my commitment to writing has waned, much less blogging, although I'm staying up-to-date over at my other blog, The Character Therapist. I've got a fairly long queue of authors who have written in, and I'm not going to let them down. Plus, doing research into disorders and the like keeps me on my toes professionally, so it's a win-win.

Feel free to follow me on that blog if you're interested in the character assessments and therapeutic thoughts I post on Tues/Thurs. Occasionally, I'll have book reviews (and giveaways...like Erica Vetsch's The Bartered Bride on Nov. 23rd!) or some other life news on this blog...but until I can get into some sort of a routine, I'm going to have to stay low on other posts and comments on your blogs. It doesn't mean I don't love all of your blogs, it just means I love my family more. :)

God's been good to me. He's taking me into a new season where writing is going to have to take a backseat to providing for my family by working full-time again, and that's okay. I'm excited about it, actually. Still, I've got my next "killer idea" already brainstorming away...and it's going to be awesome. *sigh* If only I had time to work on it!

The next installment of the Personality Disorder parade will be up Thursday morning. Just click this image below to check out Borderline Personality Disorder.


I'll be around...kind of like an apparition...fleeting in and out of the blogosphere. Oh no, wait. I'm confusing my latest client's delusions with reality.

See you all around!

T3 - Paranoid Personality Disorder

Is everyone really out to get them? Find out over at The Character Therapist.

T3 - Antisocial Personality Disorder (AKA Sociopath)

Click on over to The Character Therapist to find out everything about sociopaths.

T3 - Personality Disorder Overview

Before delving into individual personality disorders, The Character Therapist gives an overview.

Stop by and make sure your burning questions about personality disorders are answered in the coming weeks!

T3 - Therapy Basics: Session Notes

Find out what really goes into them at The Character Therapist today!

T3 - Therapy Basics: Treatment Plans

What goes into a treatment plan? Find out at The Character Therapist.

T3 - Therapy Basics: DSM, cont.

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T3 - Therapy Basics: DSM

What is it? How can it help your writing? Click here to find out.

Oh, and check out my word count to the right for Blessed. Heck yeah. :)

T3 - Therapy Basics: Assessments

Ever wondered what goes into a therapist's assessment? Find out at The Character Therapist.

T3 - Therapy Basics: Confidentiality

Confidentiality in therapeutic relationships: what you need to know for your WIP.

T3 - Alcoholism...Disease or No?

Cast your vote over at The Character Therapist. Is alcoholism a disease or not?

T3 - Jealousy

Jealousy...what's behind it for you and your characters? Get in on the discussion at The Character Therapist!